divorce
Divorce isn't an end; it's a different beginning.
Divorcing As Friends
Are you considering divorce or breakup, but deeply care about the other person? I have been in two marriages where both parties were going in such different directions that one of us decided that divorce was the only way to move forward.Breaking up is a rather painful process for both parties no matter who initiated the decision for whatever their reasons were.If you are divorcing your best or only friend, it can be particularly daunting. Do what you can to ensure that you have your own friends, and preferably keep close with mutual friends to ease your troubled mind.Some things you can do to make things easier for both of you is to find a way to express that such a situation is unpleasant for both parties. It is actually possible to lean on each other during this transition! If you are your only friends, it is okay to go get coffee at your mutual favorite place. You might be on your phones or reading different parts of the newspaper the whole time, but this being present for each other is still beneficial.In my first marriage, I was not the one to bring up divorce. But I understood where he was coming from. If we weren't romantically happy with each other, we should be available to find that happiness elsewhere.
By Alice Norris9 years ago in Humans
Positive Side of Divorce
Doesn’t it make you smile when you see videos of people who go all out with elaborate marriage proposals? Nice, isn’t it? For about 30 seconds, you think about the day of your wedding and how special you felt. No? Okay. I'll speak for me. I don't think of my divorce—right away—as I’m being happy for a couple in the early stages of their lifetime of love.
By Bonnie Simpson9 years ago in Humans
I Walked Out of My Marriage and Into My Own Life
I never pictured myself alone at 29. I had grand visions of the perfect marriage, the perfect house, the perfect everything. No plans for how to get those things, but I had a vision. I knew what I wanted, and I figured that that was half the battle. But alone at nearly 30, that was never part of the goal.
By Heather Clarke9 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter to My Ex-Husband. Top Story - August 2017.
When it comes to relationships, we stay with people for all kinds of reasons. Those with children say “stay together for the kids.” Some people stay together because they believe if they separate or divorce, their God will frown upon them. Some people stay out of fear, of their life, of other’s perception, of what could happen to them if they’re on their own. People stay and go for all kinds of reasons, but the reasons are usually so they can find a happier, better life.
By Emma Bisel9 years ago in Humans
Merbabe Makin' Waves
It's about to get real with this first post so I hope you're ready! "The Time Has Come." I Said... I've never been good at letting go; especially with people. Life is about change so we know that change is inevitable. Sometimes, change hurts. Let's bring a couple examples into the picture.
By Kelsey Camren9 years ago in Humans
Life's a Beach...
I love the beach. There is something so amazingly calm about the feel of the sand between your toes and the sound of the water. Calm isn't something that I have honestly had much of in my life. I keep saying life is like a roller coaster full of ups and downs twists and turns. As much as everyone's roller coaster is different they are all the same.
By Claudia Sanders9 years ago in Humans
It's in the Journey, Not the Destination
This is me, on one of the happiest days of my life. Actually, my happiest day in about three years. I was with one of my favorite humans, about an hour north of Steamboat Springs, CO standing on a mountain just before sunset. He took this picture. In this moment, that he caught so authentically, I was barely wearing any makeup, and I felt like the most beautiful, wonderful, amazing creature on the planet. I felt real. I felt seen.See this friend, he's not just any friend. He's the friend that after my divorce a year ago, I heard a song and thought of him. He's the friend that after I sent him that song, wrote back and became my friend again, even though we hadn't spoken in years. He's the friend that speaks my language of crazy and travel and joy, the exact same way. As he says, "Our souls mirror each other." So this moment, it was a big moment. Big feels. Real feels. And I was high. Cuz, you know—Colorado.
By Heather Clarke9 years ago in Humans
Today I Folded the Towels "Wrong"
I've been folding towels one particular way for nearly 20 years. Not today. Today I folded them "wrong." It may seem ridiculous or arbitrary something as insignificant as the "right" way to fold a towel but for me, the method of towel folding was something that kept me safe.
By Claudia Sanders9 years ago in Humans
Divorce Page Turners!
Anthea Turner published a book about surviving divorce and has been under scrutiny because of the interviews on the back of it. Back in 2014 I also published a book titled “The Divorce Toolbox- How to survive the courts, CAFCASS and Social Services while leading a normal life”. Two books about divorce written from the points of view of a celebrity and a non-celebrity. This clearly shows that regardless of someone’s status, whether they are a celebrity or not, divorce is a stressful process which comes with judgements and scrutiny.
By Mayapee Chowdhury9 years ago in Humans
When Relationships Become Too Complicated
My parents divorced when I was not even old enough for school. My father was very abusive and my mother finally found the way out. When I was a teenager my dad's actions hadn't changed much. One Christmas Eve when I was 13, my dad and I had gotten into it and he hit me, right across the face leaving me with a black eye for a week. I didn't see my dad again for 10 years.
By Ginny Berk9 years ago in Humans
Square One
I was thinking of this fabulous introduction into my life that would make me seem all strong, ambitious, courageous and fearless. Honestly, I am a 35, going to be 36 in about two months. A 35-year-old who is losing my home due to my ex-boyfriend being more financially stable than I am.
By Megan Mattson9 years ago in Humans
