breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
Falling in Love at Fifteen
The most influential thing that has happened to me was falling in love. I was fifteen and naive and thought I could take on a long distance relationship spanning 741 miles and four states. We were both young and we thought, we knew, that we were in love, and that was all that mattered. We loved each other, and we thought we could take on the world together, while not actually physically being together. We wanted a future together, and we were destined to reach it, no matter the distance between us and the struggles we knew we would face.
By Victoria Brown6 years ago in Humans
Goodbye. Yours, Eve.. Top Story - February 2020.
Goodbye. Yours, Eve. Dear Noah, I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I just need to tell you that I’m not okay in the slightest. I’m going to try so hard to carry on as if nothing has happened, but it’s hard. So very hard.
By Milada Kubb6 years ago in Humans
Ending up alone
If I end up alone, I won't be surprised. I used to hope for things. Of course, then I was a child. I got old enough to like boys. My first ex was a disappointment. He once told me if my boobs were bigger we could do more with them sexually. I was already an insecure B-cup. I eventually left him when he pretended to be interested in someone else who turned out to be his sister playing her, then acted like he was going to kill himself if I didn't stay with him. This was the same ex who manipulated me while I was on vacation into staying in from going to the beach with a friend. This was why it only lasted four months.
By Alexandra F6 years ago in Humans
The Ex
Hi, this story takes place in mid July, I’d say July seventh 2019, I was home in peace I was feeling good, life was good, had a few things that were not so good going on but things were getting worked out so no problem. So I rented a room out to a guy I new for years he was like family. I kind of new him from seeing him around but not personally I never really wanted to know some people I just feel things so I know why now. So this man was asking the guy to hook me up with him I’m not knowing this. he Told me he said to him no she’s been through a lot she is not the type to play games with men. So he wiggles his way in my life anyway and I fell for it. I kept reassuring him I wanted a friend i want to move slow and grow. Before I knew it he was here every day staying a nite he never was intimate with me, he would touch me and kiss, caress me, and I told him after that I really did not want that. But I thought he was different, He seemed nice he was telling my family and friends that he loved me in only 2 weeks. I was concerned at first then I said maybe he does it can happen foolishly. I went against all my rules and fell for him. Then one day he started arguing with me because I started asking him why hasn’t he took me out yet he went crazy totally changed to another person. Then he told me several times we would go out and we never did. We started arguing, He was aggressive angry and just scary so I said ok I’m done but he begged me back saying I’m sorry, I was wrong, I should of left. So I kept asking him why don’t I ever get to go to your house he got upset started yelling at me again. Then said he can’t be with me cause I drink soda and I’m not vegan. I said Your crazy, Come to find out his sister said he is sick, and he was a narcissist. Everything I thought about him wax true. And he admitted he did drugs but stopped, I heard he still is on the multiple drugs. Dust, cocaine, mushrooms, and weed which isn’t bad he also does pills, so now I see what the problem was. It was never me , I mean I went through hell with this guy he was a control freak on top of everything else wanted to control what I eat and drink, he told me if I don’t eat alkaline foods he can’t be with me but he was with me for months knowing I ate differently. And funny thing is he started acting that way once he got a job, remember I said he was at my house every day like clock work. He took me on a real roller coaster ride that I never wanna experience in my life ever again. I mean he argued with me about the pitiest things It could be a tv show anything. so I figured just make him think he Is right so you don’t waste energy with this guy. So I started ignoring his crazy arguments . But he still, he always found a way to argue with me. Then I figured it out he is bipolar I thought. No it was drugs he still did drugs and that’s why he was flip flopping and acting all crazy and trying to put everything on me I had enough of it. So I’m at peace now I got closure it was never me . He was crazy the whole time and his family said they try to get him help and he is reading self help books and they hope he gets help I’m like what the heck wow. I never would of thought that at first by looking at him and talking he seemed so smart but he reads google and learns things to make it seem like he already knew it all along. He did so much, I can write a book about it never mind a story. He was the worse person I ever encountered in my life, a master manipulator. And his sister also told me he was known for getting physical abusing women. She said that he likes toxic relationships and that he will wheel you back in if he can to keep the excitement going, like I thought she said he feeds on it. I had said that to someone about him I was right. I felt like he got a kick out of arguing with me like he enjoyed it. I would beg him to stop, I would tell him look I don’t care I don’t want to argue, he still was at it. To the point where it started taking a toll out on me and I started hating him. I felt like he was purposely driving me crazy. My brother was killed on his birthday years ago Sept 2013 I was so paranoid I thought he had something against my brother and wanted to hurt me I didn’t know what to think. I just knew I did not deserve this I had told him what I went through, how I was mourning. He didn’t care obviously all he cared for was himself and I prayed he will get his karma. He left me for dead in the hospital having surgery he got me pregnant and I had to have surgery, He never ever even came to see me. I learned a lesson to never trust a Man in my life he ruined my heart I had already been hurt I was just getting over a guy and before that I was divorcing my husband who got a little girl pregnant after I buried my brother. It’s like nobody cared for me, just kept hurting me, and hurting me. I wonder if it’s ever going to end or what. Sometimes I feel like bad people never feel pain only good people feel pain.When will I be happy, when will the pain stop I just want love and peace.
By Lanisha Renee Daniels6 years ago in Humans
Careless in Love - TSR #1
Disclaimer: This is a true story. For more True Stories Recounted (TSR), click here. Diamond was always a careless girl, but things seemed to get worse when she met Elisha. The first time they met, she didn’t really know how to behave. She didn’t mind his brute nature and the way he didn’t accept things unless they were exactly as he wanted. Even when he caused a scene by yelling too loudly and aggressively at the waitress for putting ketchup on his hotdog despite asking her not to, Diamond didn’t mind it. He was sweet to her, always made her feel special. The third time they met, he brought her flowers. Cheesy but very effective, especially in these times when chivalry’s corpse is nothing but bones, at this point. She thought he was perfect, and although she’d known him for only five and a half weeks, she felt like he was her soul mate.
By Jide Okonjo6 years ago in Humans
Finding Happiness in Myself
This photo was taken on a vacation to Oahu, Hawaii in January of this year. I had booked it with my girlfriend at the time; we had planned on going hiking, snorkeling with sharks, and meeting new people. She cheated on me a month before we went, so I booked rooms all over the island because I made a new plan to walk around the perimeter of Oahu to keep my distance from her. The first night there, right after landing and getting out of the Uber, her and I rekindled our old flame. I had fallen in love all over again with her and forgotten everything that happened. The morning was the same feeling, but it was different than our relationship everything was calmer and we wouldn’t argue about things that would normally be fights. Something was there, but that night she called the guy she cheated on me with while I was in the shower. I felt every emotion over again, and disappointed in myself for cancelling my hike around the island for it to happen again. I set up my hammock outside of the apartment and camped outside so she could have the bed. I got eaten by mosquitoes the first night so I laid a blanket under me the following night, but I then got rained on. The following night I set up a tarp over me and listened to the palm trees overhead; dreaming of living on the island and letting go of everything else. Throughout the days my ex and I would walk everywhere together and would talk about everything; we became fantastic friends and would look at each other knowing the feelings were still there, but she knew as soon as we got back home it would go away. I was still star struck by her until day 5. She had called him again and I decided I was going to go to the west side of the island on my own and hike 30 miles the next day to try to get over her. The Uber ride to the condo was amazing; I met one of the most genuine guys I’ve met in awhile and we talked about life and random things including how lefties have been treated in history. He made my night and I told my ex I made it to the place safely and goodnight. The next day I woke up and found a family of wild dogs within the first mile of my walk and gave them food and water. Along with the dogs I also saw a cat and a few chickens along my next few miles. I had my backpack, water, and music and I was determined to overcome everything. In the moment I got distracted by the beauty of everything around me, and I had finally found myself and the happiness in myself. This photo is of a moment I realized how beautiful this world is no matter how other people may treat me. I found myself on that walk and met some great people along the way, and once I got back to Alaska I fixed my sleep schedule to start waking up early to hike to see the sunrise. I eventually got over my ex and now I’m just working on getting over the relationship and our memories. Ever since this photo I’ve connected with four new genuine people, I work ahead in school work, and I got a new job that makes me happy. Thank you for this opportunity and just listening.
By Tyler Shotenski6 years ago in Humans
Finding Love After Being Hurt
Do you know what hurt’s the Most ? Finding out the one who you gave your all, your heart, your trust, your soul, your compassion, your comfort, Basically your everything and they turn around and do the unthinkable and hurt you like you never existed like you was nothing/you meant nothing to them. Every night when my mind starts to wonder I always ask myself where did I go wrong ? Why me? Did I put it enough effort? Why do I have a good heart ? Did I love him more than me ? Why am I so forgiving? Why can’t I forget the hurt ? I ask myself this every night and I still can’t figure out why, where and how did I go wrong.
By Vaneisha weaver 6 years ago in Humans
A Bittersweet Breakup Playlist. Top Story - February 2020.
Break-ups are awful. They’re full of immense pain and hurt for both parties involved. You might think it’s easier for one person, but it just looks like it because they’ve had more time to mentally and emotionally prepare for this moment. And it’s okay to not be okay, just like it’s okay for you ‘not being okay’ to be your new okay for a while. I’m told that it gets better, and whilst I’m still waiting for it to get better, I have my positive pants on that things will get better. But I’m also giving myself as much time as I need to heal. I’m not going to lie to you, I thought it would be quicker; but I’ve learnt over this past month that it’s a long and enduring process and I think I’ve finally embraced that. I don’t know if I’m allowed to plug my previous articles on here, but I wrote a very intimate blog post two weeks ago called ‘Grief’, if you would like to get more an insight into my thought processes and my experiences with grief .
By Virag Dombay6 years ago in Humans
Knowing When To Let It Go
Easier sang than done, learning to “let it go” is something that many people never completely figure out. The burden of holding on is almost as painful as the emotions that undoubtedly come with the release; and even if you end up liberated, the freedom is bittersweet. The truth is this: the more you invest of yourself into something that doesn’t serve you, whether that is a friendship, a partnership, relationship, or occupation, the more you weigh yourself down. You worry about the impact letting go will have on your life and theirs, along with the influence the decision will have on everyone and everything around you.
By Valerie Taylor6 years ago in Humans
